Money isn’t everything but its right up there with oxygen as Zig Ziglar once stated.
Money is the currency of exchange in this world and unless you intend to live off the grid and become self-sufficient it would probably be a good idea to examine your relationship with it.
I’ve worked with many people who have experienced a lot of pain or trauma particularly in childhood and most either don’t have a lot of money or if they do they have a very poor relationship with it, ie hold on too tight to it through fear or money controls their daily life to an extent where it has consumed their thoughts and actions.
I don’t claim to have the perfect relationship with money or myself for that matter but what I can say is that those (including myself) who examine their inner world and how they view themselves it has a direct impact on how they feel or treat money and subsequently the flow of money into and out of their lives.
Money creates a feeling within us all and those feelings created contribute to how we use money or how it uses us!
So how or what do you do if you want to change your relationship with money and ultimately you?
In sessions with people I get people to get them to hold a note in their hand (usually a €50 note) and ask them how they physically feel – is their tummy relaxed? does their chest tighten? Is their head light and clear?
When asking these questions the purpose is not to seek a specific response but rather allowing the person to become aware physically what happens in their body simply by holding money. Not exactly groundbreaking work is it but it’s vital to know where you are at before you can begin to make a change.
Usually, feelings of guilt, shame, feelings of lack or memories of childhood experiences are behind the physical sensations experienced.
I encourage you to give this a go for yourself even if you’ve done it or something similar before. Write down your findings or any insights that you have when you do this.
These could be feelings or beliefs that you hold about yourself or money. Next challenge these feelings or beliefs by asking are they true now or do they serve you in your life now?
They may have at one time but are probably obsolete now. After this write out how you want to feel about money, how much you want, how you wish to use it (remember its a currency of exchange!).
After that write out how you want to feel about you as a person, not for what you do etc but just for being you.
Doing this once may provide valuable insights. Repeating this exercise daily/weekly/monthly will provide invaluable results in your sense of Self-Worth and Financial Worth. Tweak and adjust this exercise to suit you. This is one way, not the ONLY way.
To your infinite worth & wealth.